How To Be Body Confident
Body confidence doesn't come naturally to us all. Infact, men and women, boys and girls struggle daily with their body issues. No matter who you are, your age, ethnicity, your dress size, height or even shoe size - if you are reading this I am pretty sure in saying that you have experienced some form of body confidence issues at some point.
In this post I will share with you my top tips of how I became Body Confident.
1) Realise Your Assets
Are you tall and slim with killer abs? Are you short and curvy with a pair of boobs to die for? Do you have beautiful blue eyes or a Hollywood smile? Legs to rival a super model or a curvy waist to get hearts racing?
Give yourself a look in the mirror. Confront your body issues head on. Change your angles to see all of yourself and make a list of every single thing your body has done for you. Have you birthed a child? Have you climbed a mountain? Have you walked to the shop today? Thank your body for looking after you. Turn your negative thoughts away from what you don't like about your body and focus on what you do like. Start small and the confidence will come.
2) Wear Clothes That Will Empower You
This was a big one for me for years. I was always wanting to wear the latest fashions and quite frankly, stuff that didn't suit my figure. What helped me to become body confident in my fashion was experimenting with clothes that I wouldn't normally wear, and taking fashion tips from bloggers and celebrities who were my size or thereabouts. Trendy and current websites such as BooHoo.com, ASOS amongst others have a really good selection of clothes for all different sizes, whether your petite or plus size and anything in-between, I looked at their edits and 9 times out of 10 if the model is representing your size (and she's true to size, sadly not many are!) then I would take a chance, and it paid off. I now wear what I want to wear but in the right size and cut, and this improved my body confidence to no end.
3) Listen To Your Instincts
We are all born with instincts and we have them for a reason. In terms of body confidence, I would leave the house feeling great one morning to be met with a few snidey remarks about my outfit choice or weight along the way, only to feel like utter crap for the rest of the day. This lead to serious low self-esteem for a large part of my life and especially on holiday. However, I have now come to realise that my appearance is nothing to do with anyone else, and I do not have to listen to comments from other people, especially if I am happy with my choice of outfit for that day.
Also, when it comes to instincts, you will know how your body feels in it's most happy state. I have recently read a blog post from a mummy blogger who now loves her body even more since having a baby. This is because she knows that her stretch marks or loose skin is a sign of her body being able to successfully birth a baby girl. My natural instinct was to hate my stretch marks because I have not had any kids, mine are from being up and down the scales like a yoyo since being around 16 years old. But you know what. I have grown to love them. They are a reminder that despite the dark times I have experienced with my weight and mental health, my body is still going. It still looks after me, it gets me up in the morning. It gets me through my day. It lets me dance at night and lets me sleep when I need it. For that reason, I view my body in a different way. My body is way more than just an appearance.
4) Treat Your Body With Kindness
This is a big one for me. You only get one body. You must look after it for it to look after you. There is one thing that is certain in this life and that is that we never know how long we are going to live for. Life is not a practise run, so we've got to get things to a happy place as soon as is possible. This is different for everyone, and there's a saying that I love which is "It's not about the destination, it's about the journey" which I like to live my life by. However, treating your body kindly will help you gain extra body confidence. It can be simple things; moisturising your entire body daily can make you feel refreshed. Eating healthily most days of the week can help you feel energised. Looking after your skin in the sun by wearing a high SPF can develop a gradual tan rather than a burn (something I am still working on, for my sins!). Practise self-care and your body confidence will improve as a natural consequence.
5) Always Remember That Your Body Is YOURS
Looking good for a partner is always appreciated. Feeling good for a partner shows from the inside out. If you feel good about yourself, your confidence will naturally radiate from you like a glow. Probably without you even realising it at first. It's not all about feeling or looking good for someone else, but confirmations from others around you do help elevate confidence. But it is not what matters most.
Your body is yours, and yours only. Comparing yourself to others is hard to avoid, especially in the 'Instagram-perfect' society that we are immersed in, but ultimately it doesn't matter. Try not to involve yourself in what other people are looking like, especially online as I have no doubt that there is a bit of touching up and staging going on. Good for them. Your body is yours, you have to live with it for as long as you live, so make peace with it as conflict is no good for anyone.
"To Me, Beauty Is About Being Comfortable In Your Own Skin. It's About Knowing And Accepting Who You Are".
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